Positive Self Talk: The Ultimate Self Care For Women

Have you ever wondered who our worse critics are? Often we are looking right at them in our very own mirrors.  We spend more time beating ourselves down than raising ourselves up, and it needs to stop now!  We have all heard about self-care and the many benefits of “me” time. Yet we often neglect to take care of ourselves.

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We recognize now that self-care is not selfish or indulgent, but an effort to replenish and restore balance in our lives. 

Both men and women spend a great deal of time tending to the needs of others. But of the two, women are typically the more nurturing and emotional ones.  This is why it’s especially important for women to participate in self-care activities in the form of positive self-talk.

What Is Self-Talk?

Self-talk is your inner voice that talks to you constantly. You may not even be aware of how your self-talk may be affecting you. It is especially important to recognized between the positive and the negative self talk you are doing and how to shift it if needed.

Positive Self-Talk Versus Negative Self-Talk

Essentially, the definition of these self-talks is pretty self-explanatory. Positive self-talk makes you feel good about yourself while negative self-talk makes you feel the opposite.

Negativity brings negativity.  Which would also mean that positivity brings more positivity.  It’s hard to be around people who are negative all the time.  It deflates confidence and brings the mood down.  Positive self-talk is quite the opposite. 

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What Are The Benefits Of Positive Self-Talk?

Let’s take a look at just a few of the awesome benefits related with positive self-talk.

Helps Reduce Stress And Anxiety

We all know a Debbie Downer. On the flip side of that, we also know a Happy Kathy. Being around these types of people can have an effect on you and how you will handle the situation.

With positive self-talk, you can put worrying and stress aside.  It doesn’t always mean being stress-free, but it will help you deal with these stressful times by changing your thought process.

Motivation Is Key

You may have those days where you just sat on your couch and binged watched something on Netflix or scrolled through your social media to simply avoid doing something that needed to be done. By doing this, it creates more stress on you as the deadline approaches. 

When positive self-talk is the dialogue of choice, things get done because you are motivated. And motivation is key!

You have talked yourself up so high there’s nothing that can deter you from reaching your goals, or at least getting as close as possible.  It feels good.  And when we feel good emotionally, we have more energy to stay on task.

We aren’t letting fear of failure dictate our lives; we are positive and motivated!

Your Relationship With Others Are Better

Believe it or not, when you learn to talk more positively to yourself, it becomes a habit.  It becomes second nature in you that you just radiate positivity and this will shine on to others as well. 

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Positive Self-Talk A Form Of Self-Care?

Essentially anything you do for you with a positive outcome is self-care.  Just do not be overzealous and crazed like taking a bat and smashing it into your cheating ex-boyfriend’s car. While you might feel good at the moment as Carrie Underwood did, this is not considered self-care.

Do things that are nurturing and healing and do not require you to hurt others or yourself.  Things like taking a relaxing bubble bath, giving yourself a facial, meditation, yoga, etc. These are all great ideas for self-care. 

Positive self-talk fits the bill perfectly.  It’s something we are doing for the good of ourselves, it brings us up, creates a habit of positivity, and has a great ripple effect into other aspects of our lives. 

And that is the whole point!  You need to have balance so you can perform at your best in this life.  You get one body, one mind, one spirit.  For an entire lifetime! 

Here are three easy ways to incorporate positive self-talk into your daily life.

Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are words or sentences that people use to describe how they want to be or how they want their circumstances to be and repeating it as if it is true.

Posting positive affirmations on the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, in your office or cubicle at work are great ways to have it front and center for you to see. The best way to make sure you are surrounding yourself in positivity.  Simple phrases such as these may do but if it feels too personal, then using your favorite quotes are just as powerful.

  • I feel happy and secure
  • I am enough
  • It is OK for me to have everything that I dream of
  • I trust that everything will work out for the best
  • I am worth more than anything on this Earth
  • I feel happy and secure
  • I am enough
  • It is OK for me to have everything that I dream of
  • I trust that everything will work out for the best
  • I am worth more than anything on this Earth
  • My body is a gift and I love it
  • I believe that good things are coming to me today
  • Today I will not stress over things that I cannot control
  • I am grateful for this day and its opportunities
  • I am discovering that I am powerful

Be Your Own Best Friend

When your bestie calls you in her time of need, you probably are refraining from saying negative words to try to lift her spirit.  Why not do the same thing for yourself? Treat yourself well! 

Treat yourself the way you would your best friend, with love and compassion and positive, uplifting words.

Be Optimistic

It can be easy to get pulled into a negative direction. If that does happen, gently pull yourself back to positivity.  It’s hard at first and there is no getting around that part. 

We have been trained to believe the lies and horribly negative things we say about ourselves.  This also means that we can train it to be positive, right?  Don’t beat yourself up about how often you lose the positive vibe.  Instead, keep on pushing positivity and it will eventually become a habit and the negative self-talk will disappear altogether.

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What Are You Waiting For?

Positive self-talk is an excellent form of self-care and it is FREE!  Start practicing positive self-talk today and continue it daily.   You will not become an optimist overnight but with practice, It doesn’t take a lot of time. 

It might not seem like much, but self-talk is a huge part of our self-esteem and confidence. By working on replacing negative self-talk with more positive self-talk, you’re more likely to feel in control of the things that are going on in your life and to achieve your goals.

It’s incredibly beneficial.  Take the steps necessary to practice and perfect positive self-talk.  You won’t regret it!  

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53 thoughts on “Positive Self Talk: The Ultimate Self Care For Women”

  1. It’s so true that we are our own worse critics! As women we need to stop beating ourselves up, and spend more time affirming ourselves, giving ourselves encouragement, loving ourselves!

  2. These are amazing tips! I totally believe that self-care and affirmations are so important! Keep it up with this type of content so many people need to hear it!

  3. I admit I had in the past often diminished the effect self talk can have, but I am a total believer these days. This is a good reminder of the power it has.

  4. When I had employees there were so many of my tellers who had terrible self-talk habits. It was something we had to work on regularly.

  5. These are all great reminders on how to pull in the positive self talk during the day – I really think we too easily let the negative self talk fill our head!

  6. I’ve definitely learned how important this is in the last year or so! Even when we don’t mean to, our subconscious hears negativity as truth. Conversely, it will hear positive affirmations as truth too!

  7. Wonderful info. I’ve practiced affirmations and positive self talk for about ten years and it makes such a difference in life!

  8. Positive self-talk is something that I definitely need to work on. I tend to be pessimistic by nature, and I find it spilling over to all areas of my life. I need to work on being kinder to myself.

  9. Cindy Mailhot

    Getting and stayed motivated is the key. I find myself letting self care go as the first course instead of last resort. Not a good idea.

  10. I honestly feel silly talking to myself so I have to do this in different ways. Recently I’ve written my vision statement, how I want to be seen and known in the future. Reading it daily makes me feel really good about myself and who I am becoming. It’s important to like who you are and believe in yourself! Thanks for a great post!

  11. Thinking positively and positive self talk is a big part of my life. Each day on waking I tell myself how awesome the day is going to be. There are still times I remind myself to talk positively to myself as if I was talking to a friend. Thank you for sharing this great post.

  12. Our self talk / inner monologue carries such weight with our self esteem and personal growth. This was such a comprehensive post, great job!

  13. I am all about positive self talk. Just living a more positive life in general. I love the positive affirmations you listed. I get made fun of sometimes for my belief in a positive mind equals a positive life but here I am living it! And it feels so much better than negativity.

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